My husband feels insecure as I earn up to 6 times more than he does

By Ha Nhien   June 27, 2024 | 03:00 pm PT
Every month my husband earns VND15 million (US$589), whereas my income ranges from VND80-100 million.

We’ve been married for five years, a period long enough for us to thoroughly know each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Despite my higher income, I respect and support him, investing in our family’s assets and his hobbies. Yet, he once expressed insecurity about our income disparity, prompting me to minimize my earnings in public to preserve his dignity.

To others, my husband appears gentle, capable, and family-oriented, handling all household chores like cooking and laundry. While he manages these responsibilities, I take care of our child, as he works long hours. Financially, he contributes VND10 million monthly to cover our family expenses, using the rest for his personal needs.

Despite his admirable traits, our disagreements often escalate to him speaking harshly, causing me pain. I have addressed his behavior calmly on multiple occasions, but he remains unchanged.

Moreover, while I readily acknowledge my mistakes, he seldom apologizes or admits his faults. Typically, our conflicts only resolve when I make peace, mainly for our child’s benefit.

He recently expressed a desire to quit his job and start his own business, but fears of unstable early earnings and my potential disdain. The thought led him to propose divorce, suggesting possible reconciliation if his venture succeeds. His approach, which excludes me from his plans, is deeply hurtful, particularly as I have always supported him through challenges.

I am unsure how to proceed with our marriage. Over the years, I have grown from a stubborn girl into a patient wife who recognizes that divorce is not a simple decision, especially with a child involved. Yet, I feel undervalued by my husband, likely due to my patience with him.

What should I do now?

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