My wife returns to her parents' house when I prevent her from reading comics

By Linh Quang   September 28, 2023 | 04:00 pm PT
I cannot understand why my wife is spending the last years of her youth addicted to movies and comics after spending her adolescent years addicted to video games.

Both of us are 34, and we started dating when we were in middle school. We got married after graduating.

I think we have overcome all the hardships that come in life, and our married life is considered complete as we have kids, our own house and car, and a few billion dong (VND1 billion equals $41,000) in our savings account.

However, our priorities are different.

I studied hard when I was in school, and I work hard and enjoy playing sports in my free time now. Meanwhile, my wife does not lead a lifestyle that is as active as mine. My parents are strict and have strong educational backgrounds, while my in-laws do not.

My wife was addicted to video games when we were in middle school, and even stayed up till 2 a.m. to play sometimes.

She did not follow my advice on limiting her time playing video games, so I even had to play myself to show her how negatively playing video games affected our lives.

Because of that, my academic performance deteriorated, and I failed the entrance university exam, making my whole extended family disappointed. Though I succeeded in convincing my wife to drop her habit, I had to work hard to regain my knowledge.

As we became husband-and-wife and I have financially supported our family ever since, my wife switched to being addicted to comics.

To help her quit the habit, I suggested she should do something to make her living, and she tried. She originally said she wanted to sell handmade cakes, so I bought her a baking machine. After a while, she said she wanted to sell self-designed fashion items, so I bought her a sewing machine again.

But she does not stick to anything for long.

She eventually told me that she only wanted to watch movies, to which I agreed. So, I registered accounts on streaming platforms for her and made her promise that she would limit her entertainment time, read more books in her free time, play sports, and quit reading comics. But she failed to keep her promise.

She now stays up watching movies and TV series till 1-2 a.m. and reads comics behind my back. She remembers actors and films’ names, but cannot remember my instructions when I ask her to help me with my business.

She gets mad and goes back to her parents’ house if I tell her not to read comics.

I really cannot understand why she is wasting her youth like that instead of focusing on developing a career or bringing up our kids.

As we have already had children, I cannot get simply addicted to comics to show her its negative effects again, since it will be too cruel for the kids.

What should I do now?

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