Should I remarry a divorcee 15 years my senior?

I am a 25-year-old single mother with a four-month-old son, and I also carry several hundred million dong in business debt (VND100 million equals US$3,916).

This man, aged 40, lives just 20-30 meters from my home in our hometown but works in Ho Chi Minh City. He is divorced, and his two children live with their mother. Everyone around me describes him as kind and hardworking, and says his divorce resulted from poor communication, with the separation being amicable.

We have talked and shared our views. He encourages me to think carefully, as I am still young and have many opportunities for growth. He suggests that I might find someone more compatible in the future since he is much older. However, he adds that if we decide to be together, he would move back to the countryside so we can stay close to my family. Together, we would raise my son and any future children we may have. His hope is to have another child with me once my son turns two.

After getting to know him, I find him genuinely kind and sincere in his desire to build a life with me. Still, I can’t deny that I have lingering feelings for my ex-husband, with whom I occasionally talk. He also encourages me to remarry, but I am uncertain.

My father is also eager for me to remarry, believing it will provide me with the support I need and give him peace of mind. He worries that I will struggle to raise my child and manage my debt on my own. However, part of me wants to marry the new man for the support he can provide, particularly for our families, but a stronger part of me feels deeply that I shouldn’t.

What should I do?