My husband says he doesn’t need to do housework because he earns more

I have a job and a decent income, but my husband earns significantly more. Ideally, this difference should be used to balance and support each other, but the reality is far from what I had hoped. My husband often disregards and undervalues my efforts and contributions. Despite using his money only for covering family expenses, I still feel unappreciated.

He refuses to share any responsibilities at home. He spends his days out enjoying himself, neglecting both the children and the household chores. Sometimes, I feel trapped in an unfair situation, lacking support.

Moreover, I have to endure a lack of understanding and support from him. Whenever I want to focus on personal development, study, or simply have some time for myself, he obstructs and refuses. He never understands the importance of me having time for personal growth and rejuvenation. It’s hard not to feel hurt and isolated, as I expect not only love and respect from my husband but also shared responsibilities and support for a balanced life.

It feels like I am struggling alone, managing family duties while dealing with disrespect and being undervalued by my partner. I am unsure of what the future holds, but I hope for change. I hope my husband can understand that love and sharing involve more than just money, they require actions and genuine care. I need a healthy relationship where we can build a happy and equitable life together—one based on mutual respect and support, not just financial contributions.

What can I do to change my husband’s perspective?