My husband insists I stay home to care for livestock

At 26, and with a two-year-old child, I find myself bound to home duties, while my 35-year-old husband manages nearly all other aspects of our household. He is a hardworking, ambitious man who neither gambles nor drinks. His monthly income varies from VND50-100 million (US$2,032-$4,063). Though he is not abusive, his controlling behavior mentally exhausts me daily.

Before motherhood, I earned a monthly income of VND15-20 million. Now, I must request money from him for any personal expenditures, as I have no control over our finances.

Given his extensive business network, I understand his susceptibility to encounters with other women. While I am unsure of any ongoing affairs, I’ve observed him keeping contacts of escorts and flirting with other women.

At home, my actions are constantly criticized by my husband and mother-in-law during meals over minor issues like child-rearing or dishwashing, making life increasingly unbearable. Initially, I remained silent, but after three years of marriage, I can no longer tolerate what feels like relentless criticism.

When I expressed a desire to resume work and gain some independence, my husband dismissed the idea, suggesting instead that I stay home to have another child before we both could consider working. He even threatened to find someone else if I refused to have another child.

Furthermore, my strict and challenging mother-in-law has compounded my difficulties. Since becoming her daughter-in-law, she has burdened me with all household responsibilities—from cooking and cleaning to caring for the livestock and working the fields.

Is it foolish of me to endure this situation?