My boyfriend's parents suggest I leave my job

I am 28 years old, employed as an office worker, while my boyfriend earns about VND30 million working in information technology. After dating for over a year, we recently introduced one another to our families as we started contemplating marriage. His family, who are established businesspeople, reside in a major city where I also work. Conversely, my family, who are farmers, live in a rural area 200 kilometers away from the city.

When my boyfriend visited my home, my parents said they respected our relationship as long as we loved each other. They did not see any flaws in him and treated him with respect and kindness.

Meanwhile, during my initial visit to his family’s home, I felt somewhat intimidated by their wealth, which made me act more reserved than usual. Subsequent visits allowed me to become more comfortable, however, his parents inquired extensively about my background and seemed to somewhat look down upon it, despite accepting it because their son cares for me.

They also discussed my salary and proposed that, should we marry, it would be preferable for me to stay home and care for our children, citing the superiority of maternal care over external childcare, especially given the comparative low level of my earnings.

My boyfriend agrees with his parents’ perspective, reasoning that my job yields a modest income and that child rearing would occupy more of my time. He assures financial security, highlighting that his parents own a house, and suggests transferring money to me for personal expenses to simplify our lives.

Despite their plans, I prefer to continue working and managing my own finances. The economic and social differences between our families, coupled with his family’s disregard for my rural upbringing, fill me with doubt and uncertainty about our future together.

What should I do?