I wish I didn’t have to give money to my husband

I was born in the late 1980s and have been married for a decade. My husband is a caring man who loves our family deeply, yet he lacks the financial savvy necessary for successful investments, which invariably result in losses.

Previously, he worked overseas and managed to save a modest sum. However, upon his return to Vietnam, he borrowed VND800 million (US$32,213) to invest in real estate during a property boom. Without sufficient research, he purchased land without titles, rendering it unsellable.

Since coming back from abroad, my husband has been unable to secure a well-paying job due to his limited qualifications and skills. Consequently, he initially settled for low-wage manual labor, barely covering his personal expenses and the monthly interest on his bank loan, but eventually quit. I have thus shouldered all household expenses and our daughters’ educational costs alone, without receiving financial contribution from my husband.

Investing certainly involves risks, and facing the repercussions is part of the process, but internally, I harbor significant frustration and resentment. I’ve borne this financial burden single-handedly for years and am utterly drained. I long for a life free from the obligation of supporting my husband financially, free from debt, focused solely on my work and raising our children without these constant worries. Debt truly is a heavy load to carry, and each glance at our monthly obligations disheartens me profoundly. I’ve grown to detest even the mention of land.

Remaining resilient for my children’s sake, I navigate this challenge as my husband sporadically works, often quitting jobs, and is currently home searching for another opportunity. This places immense financial pressure on me.

What should I do?