Every time my family pressures me to marry, I feel trapped

By Hang Nga   September 15, 2024 | 04:57 pm PT
At 30, I considered marrying someone arranged by my family as a quick solution to fulfill their desires and alleviate my loneliness.

Recently, the burden of perceived failure has grown heavier. Loneliness has become more pronounced for me, especially as I watch most of my peers establish their own families. Despite my education and stable career—commonly seen as foundations of success—my personal life feels incomplete without a partner, a void that professional achievements alone cannot fill. Thus, while I take pride in my professional achievements, my personal life feels incomplete.

Family pressure intensifies this feeling, urging me to start a family now that I’ve reached a "critical time." This relentless push not only adds to my stress but also leaves me feeling powerless and unsure about my life choices. Each family discussion about my marital status corners me further into despair.

Amid these pressures, anxiety and uncertainty prevail. The idea of a life partner remains an enigma, and on lonely nights, I find myself pondering who my ideal partner might be and why it’s so challenging to find someone compatible. I cling to the hope that someday he will materialize, and together, we can forge a fulfilling future. These thoughts often lead to headaches and a sense of disorientation.

I recognize the importance of making thoughtful decisions about my happiness. Marriage is more than cohabitation, it’s also about deeply connecting with another person. I am determined not to settle for mere matchmaking by my family, disregarding my own feelings and desires. Despite the pressures of loneliness and family expectations, I prioritize finding a genuine, meaningful relationship.

Therefore, I am committed to waiting for the right partner, rather than hastily making a decision just to meet others’ expectations. Though the journey may be challenging, I maintain hope that patience and faith will guide me to true happiness.

Is this the right mindset to have?

 
 
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