Losing a friend over Kim Soo Hyun's dating controversy

She fiercely defended the actor, shutting down anyone who dared to criticize him. In the comments, a close friend of hers disagreed and angrily pushed back.

What started as a debate quickly turned into a heated argument. Before long, they unfriended and blocked each other on social media.

South Korean actor Kim Soo Hyun. Photo from Gold Medalist's Instagram

I have seen this happen often recently. Friendships of five, ten years, or even longer have been destroyed over online debates. Social media has turned personal opinions into battlegrounds. Before Facebook, if you liked an actor, you would tell your friends. They might not agree with you, but they would just shrug it off and continue with their day.

Now, a simple post can feel like a personal attack. Emotions rise, words get harsher, and unfriending or blocking becomes the easiest way out. These arguments rarely change anything. Has anyone ever changed their mind because of a Facebook debate? Almost never. People stick to their beliefs, and when challenged, they only become more stubborn. Yet many keep arguing, willing to turn friends into enemies over something insignificant.

Instead of losing friends over trivial disagreements, why not accept that people can have different views?

Take this Korean actor's scandal, for example. Both sides push their own narratives, dropping selective "evidence" while the truth remains unclear. Yet people cling to those points, defending one side as if it were personal.

A friend can have different views from you, whether it is about a celebrity, a political stance, or any other opinion. Those differences do not ruin a friendship. Losing respect for each other does.

Before jumping into a Facebook argument, we should ask ourselves: "Am I willing to lose a friend over this?"

If the answer is no, let it go. You can keep your opinion—and your friend. Because in the end, even the biggest scandals die down. But a lost friendship is not so easy to reignite.