My boyfriend believes prosperity lies in cryptocurrency investing, not traditional jobs

By Yen Nhi   March 11, 2024 | 06:15 pm PT
My boyfriend has expressed a desire to step away from the conventional nine-to-five office routine, aiming to allocate his time to investments and other pursuits.

As a single mother of a daughter, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for five years. Initially, our relationship was smooth. We shared compatible personalities and mutual respect. During the financial hardships of the pandemic, he proactively sought additional employment opportunities to support me, reinforcing my belief in his commitment to our family.

Yet, I've gradually noticed a shift in our outlooks and approaches to life following the surge in Bitcoin's value. My boyfriend took out a substantial loan in secret several years ago to purchase cryptocurrencies. At that time, his steady income allowed him to manage the loan's interest payments.

When he resigned from his job due to the company's declining performance—coinciding with a rise in cryptocurrency value—I discovered his financial gain, which enabled him to settle his debt with a minor surplus. Since then, he has shown little interest in traditional employment, opting to spend his days monitoring the cryptocurrency market within trading groups.

A candid discussion with him confirmed my concerns: he believes that financial prosperity is unattainable through conventional employment. He expressed a desire to escape the eight-hour workday in favor of dedicating time to investments and various activities.

I cautioned him that investments, including those in cryptocurrency, are subject to fluctuations and should be considered supplementary. I emphasized the necessity of stable employment to ensure our family's financial security and well-being, suggesting that additional investments could be explored thereafter.

As a mother and someone who has faced relationship failures, making a decision about our future is paramount, and I am proceeding with caution. My need for security and stability stems from a desire to provide a safe environment for my daughter and me, fearing that succumbing to emotional impulses could jeopardize our well-being.

However, our diverging life perspectives suggest that we may not be aligned in our goals. I have contemplated ending our relationship.

Am I being selfish? What should I do?

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