I’m afraid of getting married

By Quynh Hoa   November 22, 2023 | 05:00 pm PT
A 34-year-old woman, I have been single and focusing on work for many years.

I think of myself as a rational woman who enjoys working. My current monthly income ranges around VND100 million (US$4,100) and I have a savings amount of several billions of dong.

But the older I get, the more I think about my future. On the one hand, I want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, so I have tried matchmaking services several times and actually had many leads.

On the other hand, it is hard for me to take any relationship with anyone further as I do not have much faith in romantic relationships.

To me, committing with someone for a whole life is too risky. As I appreciate what I have now since I have worked hard for them, I am afraid that I will have to share them with an unworthy husband or in-laws, given that marrying someone with an educational background and an income on par with me is hard for someone my age.

And I must admit that I am not good at reading others as well, which has made several of my romantic relationships fail because of betrayal.

Another problem is that I do not want to spend time with someone that does not leave me with good impressions at first encounter, since I am already busy with my work. This causes it hard for me to take any relationships further.

I see many people around me getting married then divorced and then remarried so easily, but I am not that kind of person. So, I will contemplate hard before stepping into any relationship, though I do not want to spend my old age alone either.

What should I do? Will I have regrets later in life if I remain single till the end of my life?

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