I am in my sixties and have a son and a daughter. My wife passed away years ago from a severe illness. I currently live with my son and his wife in our hometown, while my youngest daughter works in the city.
A few years ago, my son and his wife needed money for their business and asked to use my house to secure a loan. Since my wife is gone and I planned to live with them for a long time, I thought it made sense to support them, so I transferred the house’s title deed to my son. Since then, I have sensed a change in their attitude toward me.
They used to be concerned about my loneliness, encouraging me to join group exercises or visit a nearby cafe to play chess with my elderly friends. Mornings would often start with breakfast ready for me when I returned from exercising.
However, since I gave them the house, they have treated me coldly, sometimes neglecting to prepare breakfast and dinner. I even discovered they have been dining out intentionally to avoid cooking. When I asked, they claimed they were too busy with work to prepare meals.
Their actions make me feel like an outsider in my own home and I truly regret giving them the house while I was still healthy.
As for my daughter, she has been working in HCMC since graduating and is not married yet. I still have some money, gold, and a separate plot of land that none of my children know about. I had planned to give these to my daughter when she gets married, but now I feel conflicted.
If I continue to live with my son, I worry that if I fall ill, they might not even notice. Since my daughter is still renting, I am considering selling my gold and land to buy an apartment in the city to live with her. I believe she would be more caring and attentive towards me. After she gets married, I could give her part of my savings to help her buy an apartment nearby.
Should I move to HCMC to live with my daughter?
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