I feel jealous of my close friend as she married a rich foreign man

By Thuy Tien   October 8, 2023 | 03:00 pm PT
I do not want to admit it, but I am jealous of my close friend’s happy relationship with her rich foreign husband.

Both of us are 34, and we got to know each other when we worked for the same company. I have a better family background compared to my friend, as my parents live in a central district of HCMC, and I attended schools for gifted students only. I can do ballet and I can play the violin as well.

My friend is from the central province of Quang Ngai. As her parents divorced and did not take good care of her, she had to become independent at a young age.

Despite that, I did not care about how different our family backgrounds were at first. I felt pity for her and I helped her a lot, including introducing her to her current company. When she was not able to afford a smartphone, I gave her my iPhone 6 when I bought a new one.

Our relationship started to shatter when she got to know her now husband.

He has been giving her expensive gifts and openly expressing his love for her ever since they started dating. They dated for two years before having a wedding ceremony in England. They returned to Vietnam after that, and my friend has been living with her husband in a villa in HCMC’s District 2 since then. She is now living a dream life.

Her career also bloomed as she became the communications director of her company.

Meanwhile, I was not favored by my supervisor and was not promoted despite having put effort into my job for many years.

My longtime boyfriend, a technology engineer, and I are planning for our marriage. He is a kind man who always adores me and has a good family background, but I feel like he does not have much determination to move forward in his life.

He rarely comments about others, nor has he ever shown his competence in his career. He is also addicted to video games, and rarely acts romantically the way my friend’s husband does.

I have been avoiding meeting my friends for a few months, and I argue with her because of small things sometimes. Honestly speaking, I know I am jealous of her as she used to have worse conditions than mine. But I do not know how to stop being like this.

What should I do?

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