I hire help to balance career success with family care

Many families believe that conflicts over housework can bring a marriage to the brink. I see this as an unnecessary and unworthy reason for discord. These conflicts may be the final straw in a series of unresolved disagreements. If you are present for one another and have mutual understanding, there are always peaceful solutions.

Each person has different strengths and abilities, so solutions will vary. People should focus on what they excel at to bring the most value. For example, if you are good at earning money, then focus on that and hire help for housework. If hiring help isn't an option, it's natural to roll up your sleeves and tackle the housework yourself.

Doing housework is not only a duty and responsibility but also an expression of love for one's family. It's unproductive to compare who does more housework in a marriage.

When I began my career, all my time and energy were devoted to business, and I didn't visit my hometown for six years. However, ending each day with bathing my child and having dinner with my family was my greatest joy. It balanced my life and restored my energy for the next day.

I consider the cost of hiring help for my wife and children as worthwhile as making a profit in business. My family has lived together across four generations, and despite age and illness, everyone has been relaxed and happy because my wife and I know how to delegate tasks effectively. When my parents were ill, a professional caregiver stayed with them, allowing the family to focus on visiting without the worry of caregiving. Professional caregivers tend to our parents much better than we can.

The time we have is finite, so we must use it effectively. It's impractical to expect your husband to excel in his career, earn a lot, do housework, take care of the children, and remain romantic and loyal.

Similarly, husbands shouldn't expect their wives to excel in business, remain beautiful, and be gentle without providing them with time for rest, self-improvement, or financial support for self-care—especially if the husband doesn't earn a lot or have significant accomplishments.

We shouldn't be too greedy.