I got upset with how materialistic my wife is

By Hai   September 24, 2023 | 03:00 pm PT
I ordered a pot of lavender trees delivered to my wife’s company on her birthday, and she asked me: "Why didn't you transfer me some money?"

We got married five years ago. I knew from the start of our relationship that she is rather on the practical side while I’m a romantic man, but did not think it would affect our relationship too much.

Everything was fine during the first two years of our marriage, when my wife still happily received my gifts. But she has shown her annoyance since she gave birth, and told me that I should have given money to her everytime I gifted her something.

I have always spent a lot of time looking for meaningful gifts for her everytime her birthday approaches. I booked a dinner at a restaurant two weeks in advance and bought a bouquet consisting of 99 beautiful roses for her on her birthday last year. I ordered a pot of lavender trees delivered to her company on her birthday this year. All of them were not only meaningful but also not cheap at all, but she did not like any of them.

She did not even call or text me saying thank you after receiving the gift this year. When we got home in the evening and I asked about the present, she said she did not like it because all I knew was showing off. She said: "Why didn’t you transfer me some money?"

"Flowers cannot last forever and they will end up being thrown away after getting rotten, while I can use money to buy whatever I like."

Meanwhile, she never does anything special to celebrate my birthday, even that’s just cooking a meal for me.

On a side note, my wife does not like cooking, so we eat out five days a week and eat at my parents-in-law’s place on the remaining two days. She never holds my hand when we go out either, while I think hugging or kissing each other outside are normal things.

I don’t know if I am overthinking or my wife does not have any feelings left for me.

What do you think?

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