I’ve been married for less than two years, yet I already feel like my own family has turned their back on me. I know the old saying that "a daughter is someone else’s child," as women typically get married and move in with their in-laws, but it’s hard to believe how my mother has neglected me and turned away after I got married.
Before I got married, my mother would always consult me on almost every decision, big or small. Now, she hardly speaks to me. I had no idea when she sold her house, even though both of my brothers knew, despite me living just 20 minutes away from her house.
Not only does she treat me like a stranger, but she also shows indifference towards my child. I raise my child on my own without asking for her help, yet when my child gets sick, she completely ignores them and doesn’t even come to check on them.
There are times when caring for my child becomes overwhelming, and I long for someone to talk to, to share the burden with. I’ve invited her over to spend time with my child, to bring our family closer together, but she always refuses. She complains that my house is too far, and says I’m too busy taking care of the child to have any meaningful conversation. She treats me like an outsider, and whenever my husband or my brothers do something she doesn’t like, she calls me to blame me for not correcting them or guiding them better.
She unloads her negative emotions onto me, scolding me for no reason at all, even though I haven’t done anything wrong. It’s all because she’s in a bad mood. I still wish for my child to have a joyful childhood with her grandmother, and for our family to be close-knit. But my mother continues to push my little family away for no reason at all.
What should I do?